In the “old days” women’s roles were clear. True, they might have been already chosen for them, but they knew what was expected. They could take pride in the job they did. They could bond together with the same concerns as coworkers do. They could live in a sisterhood and pour out their feelings of hostility towards a male-based society over the fences of their backyards. Ah, the good old days. Today those fences are gone and we are too busy to indulge in such frivolities as a sisterhood.

The women’s movement changed the face of America as surely as the Civil War did. Women were encouraged to go out, “bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never, never let you forget you’re a man” (If you’re too young to remember this, it’s from an old perfume commercial). For many years women thrived under this encouragement. They became everything they wanted to be and they supported each other in their endeavors. They cheered each other on and rejoiced in the advances of women. It was a strong sisterhood. It was intense and it had a life of it’s own.

Something terrible happened in the midst of that success. The primary role of women in days past became scorned. Those in the throes of the successful women’s movement could not understand why a woman would lower herself and actually choose to be only a wife and mother. Women who stayed home to nurture their children and make their families their first priority became looked upon as oppressed, lazy, or lacking the intelligence needed for further advancement. Suddenly, in the span of 20 years the most important job in the world became a disgrace and a shame.

It’s seems that this movement has now come full circle. Many women are finding that they no longer want to endure the daily battle of trying to find a balance between having a full time job and raising a happy family. Filled with stress and guilt from both of these important arenas in their life they are finding they are not happy and fulfilled in either. For some, they find that the successes of the boardroom do not come close to salving the wound of missing their child’s first home run. So they make a tough decision. They go home. They raise happy families and everyone lives happily ever after. Not so.

Women have become their own worst enemies. Those that choose to work often look at stay at home moms as academically unchallenged and blind to the things they could become if only they had the ambition. They are seen as settling for the life they have and weak because they won’t stand up and take more. I’ve even heard it said that they are traitors to the women’s movement and have set it back decades. The other end of the spectrum can be just as judgmental. Some stay at home moms look at working moms as greedy and self centered. One wonders why a woman would have a child and then pay someone else to raise it. Their children are pitied and the time is counted until they become ax murderers and bank robbers.

We seem unable to accept that maybe both sides are right. Maybe it’s because we both envy each other a little. As women we often strike back at things which make us feel inadequate and there is no other topic more able to make us feel that way than mothering. In an area where we are our own worst enemies, always questioning our every chore given and discipline meted out it is no wonder why we would crush the opposite camp which makes us feel all those things with blinding and frighteningly accurate blows.

I believe in these facts. No one can replace a mother. No mother who loves her child wants to be replaced. There are some bad mothers out there who never should have had children. A happy mom makes her children happy. A mom who stays home to raise her children and is constantly resentful and moody raises children who feel inadequate and unworthy. So maybe all moms shouldn’t stay home and maybe all moms shouldn’t work either.

While we would never let our children be categorized or labeled we have done the very same thing to ourselves. We have divided ourselves into two camps. While we would rather not admit it, each has it’s best to give. Each loves its children. Each of us has our gifts and can offer unique things to our children. How nice it would be to support each other in our choices and help each other and our children to make their lives loving and complete. It’s no less than what we ask our children to do every day. We ask them to have tolerance and compassion. Maybe some day we can grow to accept our differences and our strengths and weaknesses and work together so that all our children can flourish.
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Sisters are at long last recognized in America with Sister’s Day. To mark this special day millions of free e-mails are sent by sisters to sisters to help celebrate this great day. These free e-cards can also be personalized and so sisters can send a special message to each other. Though generally taken to mean a female relative descending from shared parents, the connotation of the word sister is a familial relationship between people that is often not based on being related.

Women that share a particular culture, language, behavior, geography, lifestyles, or experiences are referred to as sisters, especially when they unite for one of those reasons. For example, a female military expert might consider all other female soldiers to be her sisters in arms, or women experiencing pregnancy may feel the sisterly bond with others in that situation.

Whether the sisters you played with while growing up were literally that or really close playmates, the bond formed between people of approximately the same age within a larger family, neighborhood, or kin structure is irreplaceable. In spite of the potential rivalry, maintaining a connection with your sisters throughout adulthood is vital to the survival of the family dynamic. Celebrated annually on the first Sunday in August, Sisters’ Day commemorates the special relationship between genealogical sisters and celebrates the many other dimensions of sisterhood.

In keeping with the spirit of Sisters’ Day, the inclusion of step- and adopted sisters in the celebration is vital to keeping the changing face of the modern family up to date. Parents of siblings should use this holiday to encourage interaction, communication, and the basis for a supportive relationship between them from an early age.

If you and your sisters are separated by time, distance, and lifestyle, this is your chance to renew your connection with them. Reach out across the country, or around the world, and bring your sisterly network to life again through phone calls, scheduling reunions that are independent of times that your family or sisterhood already gets together, or establishing an electronic link.

Keep updated on your respective lives, because you never know what you might find out about each other, or yourself! In the event of no sister(s) with whom to share this meaningful occasion, seek out a group of women with whom you may foster a sisterly bond based on various aspects of your culture, personality, and much more. Sisterhood is about more than being sisters, namely, it is about being women and being there for each other.

According to a recent study, older women that have maintained a connection with their sister(s) are less likely to be depressed or feel a sense of abandonment that typically grows with age. In fact, all evidence gathered about positive relationships between sisters points to its value and significance, emotional and otherwise, for all parties involved. Incredibly, people of any age, even as young as a year old, actually cope better with the separation from their parents than that from their siblings.

There are now a great choice of free e-cards to send to sisters to recognize this event. When sending a free e-card to your sister you can send a humorous ecard or you can send one that you know that your sister can relate to. The great thing then is that your sister can then send you back another free e-card as soon as she has received hers. By sending free e-cards helps sisters around the world keep in touch.
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The abundance of single moms in our country means there are a lot of our exes out there, and they eventually end up in a new relationship. To this new woman you are the ex and who knows your ex better than you do, right?

It made me wonder what I’m really getting into when I date a single dad. He has an ex that either he left or left him. He’s been through a breakup/divorce, pays child support, etc. and has to maintain some kind of relationship with the mother of his kids. What is that like and what does it say about him? It’s worth more consideration than I think most of us give it, myself included.

As we know there are always two sides to every story and you’ve probably heard your new man’s, but what about his ex’s? If you know your ex better than anyone, wouldn’t that also mean that his ex knows him better than you? What do you think your ex tells the new woman in his life? You know we can’t all be Bitter Bitches!

If you’re dating or in a relationship with a single dad, or any man that has an ex (and we hope he does have some experience) then of course we want to take him for his word about his past and be supportive. However, as an ex and single mom ourselves, we do have some insight into his exes world – and she into ours.

It is highly possible your new man made mistakes in his past relationships, but I’d want to know if; 1) he can take responsibility for them instead of blaming others, 2) has he learned from his experiences, and 3) he is willing to make changes to avoid making the same mistakes in his past.

I prefer to think of his ex as an ally rather than an enemy. She’s in the sisterhood of single moms and exes and if she’s already been there and done that with my new man, we may have a lot in common.

It’s too bad so many women try to sabotage rather than support each other. If your man casts a negative light on his ex, try pointing out her side as you can relate to it with your own experiences with your ex. It would certainly be more productive than just taking his word and forming opinions based on only one side of the story. If we can help him find compassion for his ex by what we bring into the relationship as exes ourselves, then we’d all be better off. Pay it forward!

It is through being in a chat community that one can be able to meet potential partners as well as beneficial friends. People in one community for instance college community develop some kind of togetherness. The college brings them together and they are able to form either sisterhood or brotherhood. It is a great idea to be part of a chatting association of any kind. In college so many associations are formed and you would be abnormal to have not registered with one. The clubs tend to be more than even the departments in a college. There will always be people from the same village, same tribe, same church, same age and so on. It is next to impossible to lack a place you can attach yourself with. A game chat is where you chat through a game organized in college therefore it is under the umbrella of college chat.

A game chat allows people to interact much more effortlessly. For example in college there are so many opportunities for games. If you are a reserved person and you find it hard to start a conversation, you can get more specific in your college chat and join a group of people who are playing a game of chess. A game is very interesting and builds up a very strong chat community. If you are in college, make an effort of knowing the games day and also get familiar with the venue. I remember during my college days game chats helped me a lot since i was not naturally so outgoing. I would go and join people playing dart. It is amazing how this kind of activity opens you up.

The excitement when you win makes the person shout unconsciously and the released disappointment makes and individual open up. A game chat is full of passion and you will be much hooked up to the game. Soon or later you find yourself comfortable in a chat community which was formed through your shared interest of a certain game. A college chat can get boring since most of the college students are young and innocent. They lack knowledge in most fields. You do not need a comb for a bald head and so you might feel like you do not need a college chat since it adds no value to your life. This is just a misconception because Rome was never built in one day. A little of something goes a long way. Life is a learning process and even the old and Grey have something to learn about.

When most people join college, they first suffer from a syndrome known as home sickness. They are used to the home environment and college environment literary scares them. They first look withdrawn but with time they get used to the environment. How you relate with others says a lot about who you are and who you become. A college chat with some of the continuing students helps you learn something about the new institution. To shed away that fear of the unknown, it is good to identify a chat community. It can be a group in church or a group in class but all these might be strained. A game chat is the best because you do not have to struggle to keep the conversation going. The game dictates what to say next. A conversation that flows so well that it is hard to believe. Try out college chat for best life in college.