Okay men, listen up, this is a lady speaking. I have some advice for you that my sisterhood may be a bit upset for me spilling to you. If you really want to know how to pick one of us up this weekend, just read on.
Prepare Yourself
The first tip in your quest to pick up the perfect hotty is to present yourself as being pickupable. This means you need to put more effort into getting ready to go out than rummaging through the dirty clothes for a t-shirt that does not smell too bad. You need to start from the top down.
Hair: Get it cut regularly. Heck, you should even splurge and go to a real salon instead of just the local Walmart cut and trim joint. Invest in some appropriate styling product to show off your cool style. Do not be afraid of hair products. Just tell yourself this, “Brad Pitt wears them and he has Angelina Jolie.”
Face: If clean cut is not the thing for you, get over it. Clean cut is almost always the way to go. Just because you have been slaving over your tiny precious “soul patch” since high school, does not mean it is attractive to the ladies. Shave it off.
Smell: Good golly Miss Molly, take a shower. If you stink, this is not France, and you will NOT get the girl. Remember all of those silly commercials showing the new mens body sprays. They have the right idea. Men who smell good are attractive to women. You might want to invest in something a little classier than Bod though. ALSO IMPORTANT, do not overdo it. Spray several sprays in the air and walk through the mist. That is enough to carry you through the evening smelling nice.
Clothes: You know the gay guys you make fun of? Look at how they are dressed. Unless they are wearing pink or stillettos, they are probably wearing the latest fashion and should be admired and copied. Ladies love a man with style.
Shoes: No scrubby old sneakers for the club please. No ugly thong sandals depicting your disgusting man feet. Cover those bad boys up in something fashionable and stylish. Again, check out your nearest gay for a hint.
BE BOLD
The second tip in picking up ladies is to leave the cheesy pick up lines at home, but make sure to pack your self confidence. Self confidence is more attractive than any perfume. DO NOT be afraid of us and we will very rarely bite (in a mean way). If you get shot down by asking a woman if she would like to dance or if you can buy her a drink, do not despair. There are plenty of girls who will take you up on the offer.
PAY OUR WAY
Sure, it is a new age of femininism and we CAN pay our own way, but a bought drink still tells us you’re interested, and we should never have to go stag on a date. Do not buy her a rolex on the first meeting, but do not be afraid to buy a drink or three. Heck, that may loosen us up enough to think your pick up lines are cute.
Have you been landed with the job of Maid of Honour for your sister or best friend? If the job includes giving a maid of honour speech, the whole thing can suddenly become quite scary, especially if you are not used to public speaking. Need some help with your wedding speech?
Help, how do I give a wedding speech?
My best friend Angela was thrilled when her little sister asked her to be the maid of honour at her upcoming wedding. She did not realize that her sister would also be asking her to give a maid of honour wedding speech! When her sister casually let that news slip, Angela managed to keep her cool and say, “Sure, I can do a maid of honour wedding speech, no problem!” But then she phoned me up in a panic.
“What am I going to do?” Angela moaned. “I have never given a speech before and I am terrified!”
Once I had calmed Angela down, I shared my top wedding speech tips with her. They might help you too!
Top maid of honour wedding speech tips
DO remember that you are going to have a very friendly audience. All of the wedding guests will cheer you and be on your side, even if you are fumbling or make a mistake. So try to relax and enjoy the day. DO use either nostalgia, or humour, or both, for a successful and memorable wedding speech. DO plan the speech. Some maids of honour decide to leave the planning and think something up on the day in the mistaken belief that the speech will seem more natural and spontaneous. In fact, the most successful and natural speeches are ones that have been planned carefully in advance. DO NOT worry if you struggle with jokes or humour. You can give a nostalgic speech instead. This is really easy and can involve simply coming up with one or two stories about special times that you and the bride spent together. They do not need to be earth-shatteringly interesting, just memorable for you and for the bride. EVEN if you really are stuck and cannot come up with an original speech, do not panic! Instead, why not simply thank the bride for her friendship (or sisterhood) and then read out a poem that shows what a special girl you think she is? That is guaranteed to bring tears to the bride’s eyes and be a resounding success, and may be less stressful for you. When you finish reading, you can simply wish the bride and groom happiness and raise your glass.
The abundance of single moms in our country means there are a lot of our exes out there, and they eventually end up in a new relationship. To this new woman you are the ex and who knows your ex better than you do, right?
It made me wonder what I’m really getting into when I date a single dad. He has an ex that either he left or left him. He’s been through a breakup/divorce, pays child support, etc. and has to maintain some kind of relationship with the mother of his kids. What is that like and what does it say about him? It’s worth more consideration than I think most of us give it, myself included.
As we know there are always two sides to every story and you’ve probably heard your new man’s, but what about his ex’s? If you know your ex better than anyone, wouldn’t that also mean that his ex knows him better than you? What do you think your ex tells the new woman in his life? You know we can’t all be Bitter Bitches!
If you’re dating or in a relationship with a single dad, or any man that has an ex (and we hope he does have some experience) then of course we want to take him for his word about his past and be supportive. However, as an ex and single mom ourselves, we do have some insight into his exes world – and she into ours.
It is highly possible your new man made mistakes in his past relationships, but I’d want to know if; 1) he can take responsibility for them instead of blaming others, 2) has he learned from his experiences, and 3) he is willing to make changes to avoid making the same mistakes in his past.
I prefer to think of his ex as an ally rather than an enemy. She’s in the sisterhood of single moms and exes and if she’s already been there and done that with my new man, we may have a lot in common.
It’s too bad so many women try to sabotage rather than support each other. If your man casts a negative light on his ex, try pointing out her side as you can relate to it with your own experiences with your ex. It would certainly be more productive than just taking his word and forming opinions based on only one side of the story. If we can help him find compassion for his ex by what we bring into the relationship as exes ourselves, then we’d all be better off. Pay it forward!
CAPE TOWN GAY LEGISLATION
South Africa has one of the most liberal constitutions in the world and outlaws homophobia (hate speech on the grounds of sexual orientation is illegal), protects the sanctity of same-sex relationships and new legislation has acknowledged homosexual marriages. This being said it does not mean that Cape Town is less african than the rest of the continent. It only means that laws have been put in place to protect its citizens.
DE WATERKANT VILLAGE
The pinnacle of gay Cape Town has to be De Waterkant village in Green Point, that breaks free from the boundaries of what is normally defined as being exclusively gay. With its cosy cafes, multi-functional restaurants, delightful guest houses, chic designer shops and pulsating night life, it has transformed itself into a most pleasing community. But dont think that this is where the pink map of Cape Town ends, all along the Atlantic seaboard, guest houses, tearooms and exquisite break-away spots can be found that embrace the power of the pink.
GAY ORGANIZATIONS
The Triangle Project is a service organisation working to eradicate discrimination against and within the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. It provides sexual health education, free weekly walk-in clinics, professional face to face counselling and a helpline.
Cape Info Africa is a tourists dream come true. If you need information on exploring the Atlantic Seaboard, this is your highway to a variety of travel and tourism answers.
Wanderwoman (www.wanderwoman.co.za) is Cape Town’s own sisterhood of travelling muses. A facilitating service operated by lesbians, for lesbians.
CAPE TOWN GAY ACCOMMODATION
Establishments that cater for the gay travellers needs are situated in Cape Town, Green Point and along the Atlantic Seaboard. Ranging from the bed & breakfast establishments to the luxury hotel and villa accommodation and sleeping up to ten guests, with en-suite bathrooms, panoramic Cape Town views, air-conditioning, satellite tv’s and wireless internet access, these accommodation venues cater for all the needs of the gay community.
It is through being in a chat community that one can be able to meet potential partners as well as beneficial friends. People in one community for instance college community develop some kind of togetherness. The college brings them together and they are able to form either sisterhood or brotherhood. It is a great idea to be part of a chatting association of any kind. In college so many associations are formed and you would be abnormal to have not registered with one. The clubs tend to be more than even the departments in a college. There will always be people from the same village, same tribe, same church, same age and so on. It is next to impossible to lack a place you can attach yourself with. A game chat is where you chat through a game organized in college therefore it is under the umbrella of college chat.
A game chat allows people to interact much more effortlessly. For example in college there are so many opportunities for games. If you are a reserved person and you find it hard to start a conversation, you can get more specific in your college chat and join a group of people who are playing a game of chess. A game is very interesting and builds up a very strong chat community. If you are in college, make an effort of knowing the games day and also get familiar with the venue. I remember during my college days game chats helped me a lot since i was not naturally so outgoing. I would go and join people playing dart. It is amazing how this kind of activity opens you up.
The excitement when you win makes the person shout unconsciously and the released disappointment makes and individual open up. A game chat is full of passion and you will be much hooked up to the game. Soon or later you find yourself comfortable in a chat community which was formed through your shared interest of a certain game. A college chat can get boring since most of the college students are young and innocent. They lack knowledge in most fields. You do not need a comb for a bald head and so you might feel like you do not need a college chat since it adds no value to your life. This is just a misconception because Rome was never built in one day. A little of something goes a long way. Life is a learning process and even the old and Grey have something to learn about.
When most people join college, they first suffer from a syndrome known as home sickness. They are used to the home environment and college environment literary scares them. They first look withdrawn but with time they get used to the environment. How you relate with others says a lot about who you are and who you become. A college chat with some of the continuing students helps you learn something about the new institution. To shed away that fear of the unknown, it is good to identify a chat community. It can be a group in church or a group in class but all these might be strained. A game chat is the best because you do not have to struggle to keep the conversation going. The game dictates what to say next. A conversation that flows so well that it is hard to believe. Try out college chat for best life in college.
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