All of us are blessed to love and to be loved, Cheers!

TO LOVE is to show by examples of loving all mankind through sharing and caring.

TO BE LOVED is to expect readers to understand the message of ‘to love and to be loved’ and learn from it and apply them to yourself, your family and to all other humans beings. Why?

The message here is clear and dear. Love is a great topic where no one is not touched. But perhaps to many people, love is restricted to only just that special one or just within the family or his circles of friends. It is not wrong too. Isn’t this love only for someone or our parents or those whom we are related? “Ask me to love others? Impossible, they don’t love me, why should I love them?” I want to mind my own business, I am too busy with my ‘loved ones’.

But if one can just accept the fact that we are brothers and sisters living in the same planet, Earth, try to expand this most powerful emotion, LOVE for all. What I am talking now is about divine love, a genuine love which is called an UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Our Lord even loves the sinners, it is true! Loving sinners and everyone of us. Aren’t we also sinners? If God discriminate people in groups of saints and sinners, which category will we be then? Where can God place us then?
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Let’s look at the types of loves that people always eye differently. When we talk about love, many minds would be reminded of the physical act of love between males and females. Oh! that is just maybe 5% of what love might represent. What about the other 95% Love? A white blank sheet of paper dotted with a small black spot; and the rest of the paper left untouched! What can we see on this piece of paper? The answers of most people will be seeing the black dot, not the 95% of the paper which is white!

Well, it is just natural…. nothing to be alarmed… Most of us have been trained to see the black spot, not the big white space that surrounds the black spot. Most people are not trained to see the white space in the paper. Most people looks at things negatively.

There are many different types of love, I have collectively written them down for all to have a glance…. maybe you can add in some more…these are just some of these love.

[1] Divine or Genuine love

This is divine love that radiates from the highest level of love that mankind knows and needs. It is from a divine source. It is an unconditional love for all mankind, his creations. The cup of love will be so full that it will overflow and the more you give, the more the cup will be filled up….

This is the universal language that unites. This is the grandest love of all, unfading and eternal, it has been in existence beyond any creation in space or cosmos, before time or after time……this love will create and bear the fruits of peace and happiness and encourages spiritual wealth and health that will exists forever….

Because of this love, we are ‘lighted’ with this powerful source of emotion, this is the ‘bridge’ to peace, joy and faith. Love knows no barrier, love knows no hate, love knows no lies…. Love is flawless.

Many problems arises among us because we have forgotten to place Divine Love as priority. Divine Love when placed first among other loves will solve countless problems on entanglements.

[2] Parental love

Whoever you are or whatever status you are now, we are all born of a woman, the most respectful woman whom we call our mother. And raised in a family where there is this male-head, we call the father. We cannot deny this fact, we are not cloned or mass produced by any material source. We are born human and we have human parents. Respect and love is demanded and expected of us. No other love can exceed this human love from our parents. gee…. our parents call us babies no matter how old we are…. rite? In our parents eyes, we are and will be always babies for them even when one climbs up the family tree to become a grandfather! It is as commanded, love our parents.

There have been countless stories of unconditional love shared on parental love, telling us on how great and valuable this parental love is. You might not understand yet, but when you become a parent, you will taste it too. So, take some time to be with our parents, call them, serve them, obey them, heed them, love them….at least to see them comforted and provided for till one day they be rested. By then, don’t regret that you have loved less, cared less and cry over those things you have never done!

[3] Siblings’ love

We talk about brotherhood or sisterhood…. actually there is no such word, but to evoke in all a better memory of brotherly or sisterly relationships. Blood is thicker than water, know what I mean? Brothers and sisters are all born of the same womb of your mother. Remember these? That we grew up together, we played together, bathed together, laughed together and fought each other…. We spent many years together….

Love between siblings are wonderful bonds that are shared only among brothers and sisters. Reflect on what is genuine and expand it… There are touching real stories where the strength of brotherly or sisterly love are tested. As brothers and sisters, we love and trust each other at the same time gain mutual understanding and partnership.

to be continued…

The abundance of single moms in our country means there are a lot of our exes out there, and they eventually end up in a new relationship. To this new woman you are the ex and who knows your ex better than you do, right?

It made me wonder what I’m really getting into when I date a single dad. He has an ex that either he left or left him. He’s been through a breakup/divorce, pays child support, etc. and has to maintain some kind of relationship with the mother of his kids. What is that like and what does it say about him? It’s worth more consideration than I think most of us give it, myself included.

As we know there are always two sides to every story and you’ve probably heard your new man’s, but what about his ex’s? If you know your ex better than anyone, wouldn’t that also mean that his ex knows him better than you? What do you think your ex tells the new woman in his life? You know we can’t all be Bitter Bitches!

If you’re dating or in a relationship with a single dad, or any man that has an ex (and we hope he does have some experience) then of course we want to take him for his word about his past and be supportive. However, as an ex and single mom ourselves, we do have some insight into his exes world – and she into ours.

It is highly possible your new man made mistakes in his past relationships, but I’d want to know if; 1) he can take responsibility for them instead of blaming others, 2) has he learned from his experiences, and 3) he is willing to make changes to avoid making the same mistakes in his past.

I prefer to think of his ex as an ally rather than an enemy. She’s in the sisterhood of single moms and exes and if she’s already been there and done that with my new man, we may have a lot in common.

It’s too bad so many women try to sabotage rather than support each other. If your man casts a negative light on his ex, try pointing out her side as you can relate to it with your own experiences with your ex. It would certainly be more productive than just taking his word and forming opinions based on only one side of the story. If we can help him find compassion for his ex by what we bring into the relationship as exes ourselves, then we’d all be better off. Pay it forward!

CAPE TOWN GAY LEGISLATION

South Africa has one of the most liberal constitutions in the world and outlaws homophobia (hate speech on the grounds of sexual orientation is illegal), protects the sanctity of same-sex relationships and new legislation has acknowledged homosexual marriages. This being said it does not mean that Cape Town is less african than the rest of the continent. It only means that laws have been put in place to protect its citizens.

DE WATERKANT VILLAGE

The pinnacle of gay Cape Town has to be De Waterkant village in Green Point, that breaks free from the boundaries of what is normally defined as being exclusively gay. With its cosy cafes, multi-functional restaurants, delightful guest houses, chic designer shops and pulsating night life, it has transformed itself into a most pleasing community. But dont think that this is where the pink map of Cape Town ends, all along the Atlantic seaboard, guest houses, tearooms and exquisite break-away spots can be found that embrace the power of the pink.

GAY ORGANIZATIONS

The Triangle Project is a service organisation working to eradicate discrimination against and within the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. It provides sexual health education, free weekly walk-in clinics, professional face to face counselling and a helpline.
Cape Info Africa is a tourists dream come true. If you need information on exploring the Atlantic Seaboard, this is your highway to a variety of travel and tourism answers.
Wanderwoman (www.wanderwoman.co.za) is Cape Town’s own sisterhood of travelling muses. A facilitating service operated by lesbians, for lesbians.

CAPE TOWN GAY ACCOMMODATION

Establishments that cater for the gay travellers needs are situated in Cape Town, Green Point and along the Atlantic Seaboard. Ranging from the bed & breakfast establishments to the luxury hotel and villa accommodation and sleeping up to ten guests, with en-suite bathrooms, panoramic Cape Town views, air-conditioning, satellite tv’s and wireless internet access, these accommodation venues cater for all the needs of the gay community.

It is through being in a chat community that one can be able to meet potential partners as well as beneficial friends. People in one community for instance college community develop some kind of togetherness. The college brings them together and they are able to form either sisterhood or brotherhood. It is a great idea to be part of a chatting association of any kind. In college so many associations are formed and you would be abnormal to have not registered with one. The clubs tend to be more than even the departments in a college. There will always be people from the same village, same tribe, same church, same age and so on. It is next to impossible to lack a place you can attach yourself with. A game chat is where you chat through a game organized in college therefore it is under the umbrella of college chat.

A game chat allows people to interact much more effortlessly. For example in college there are so many opportunities for games. If you are a reserved person and you find it hard to start a conversation, you can get more specific in your college chat and join a group of people who are playing a game of chess. A game is very interesting and builds up a very strong chat community. If you are in college, make an effort of knowing the games day and also get familiar with the venue. I remember during my college days game chats helped me a lot since i was not naturally so outgoing. I would go and join people playing dart. It is amazing how this kind of activity opens you up.

The excitement when you win makes the person shout unconsciously and the released disappointment makes and individual open up. A game chat is full of passion and you will be much hooked up to the game. Soon or later you find yourself comfortable in a chat community which was formed through your shared interest of a certain game. A college chat can get boring since most of the college students are young and innocent. They lack knowledge in most fields. You do not need a comb for a bald head and so you might feel like you do not need a college chat since it adds no value to your life. This is just a misconception because Rome was never built in one day. A little of something goes a long way. Life is a learning process and even the old and Grey have something to learn about.

When most people join college, they first suffer from a syndrome known as home sickness. They are used to the home environment and college environment literary scares them. They first look withdrawn but with time they get used to the environment. How you relate with others says a lot about who you are and who you become. A college chat with some of the continuing students helps you learn something about the new institution. To shed away that fear of the unknown, it is good to identify a chat community. It can be a group in church or a group in class but all these might be strained. A game chat is the best because you do not have to struggle to keep the conversation going. The game dictates what to say next. A conversation that flows so well that it is hard to believe. Try out college chat for best life in college.